"When You Thought You Found Bae..."
Updated: Apr 5, 2021
Most of my friends are either in a new relationship, engaged, or married, while I am patiently waiting for “My Boaz,”---as some of you guys would say lol. I desire a committed relationship but I find myself planning an entire life with someone after a couple of dates, just to drop them after talking for about 2-3 weeks. One day I met this guy and he was great!! We shared similar interests, he was a Christian, and we even had the same sense of humor. However, the more I got to know him, the more I realized he wasn’t the right fit for me. I had two choices, stick around and see where things would go or follow my intuition. I chose my intuition. I thought to myself, “Just when you think you’ve found bae but now I'm back to the drawing board!!!” Through that experience I concluded, dating is cool but I need to spend more time with myself but I soon discovered my need to spend more time with God. Since then, I have shifted my focus from “finding bae” to discovering B.A.E…
Building a relationship with God
Building a relationship with God can commence through various circumstances. Some people seek God because they’re curious to find out if He’s real or not. My reason stemmed from a desperate desire to seek clarity. I was lacking direction which led me to discovering Christ. Trust me when I say it’s not a cake walk but it’s easier with the help of accountability partners, prayer warriors, and scripture. S/o to my friend Syd for sending me the message, “5 Keys to Identifying your Soulmate", by Toure’ Roberts ( I think I've watched it over ten times since she sent it in 2015 **shrugs**). He carefully describes the qualities of a God centered relationship and the person you should be before you decide to enter one. His message reminds me of the triangular diagram that depicts two individuals walking towards the top. Their walk represents their journey in building a relationship with God. Through the journey, the individuals are walking in purpose before they finally meet each other. I think the best relationships are when couples are pursuing their individual goals while encouraging one another. God has a purpose for everything, so I know He will send someone whose purpose aligns with mine. Matthew 6:33 tells us to seek the kingdom of God and everything will be added to us. This means you shouldn't worry when you put Christ first in your life because He will allow everything to fall into place.
Appreciate the process
Toure’ emphasizes being content with being alone. Have you ever truly been alone? No one to call and no one to entertain? You should probably try it if you’re single. The best time to deal with your issues is when it’s just you and God; we have a lot to work on before God sends the love of our life! Relationships can’t conceal your issues, they will only expose them. Every stage in life is a part of the process. Song of Solomon 8:4 says to not awaken love before it’s time. Maybe that was put there to remind us to take our time and be selective? Maybe God wants us to fully understand our identity in Him before we attach our lives with another person? I recently saw an Instagram post that said, “My mom told me to read 1 Corinthians 13:4-8 and to replace the word love with my man’s name and if it’s not accurate he’s not the one.” That was clever but I challenged myself by inserting my own name. Can other people describe me as patient? kind? forgiving? Some of us want others to have amazing qualities without possessing it ourselves. Thank God the Holy Spirit helps us adopt these qualities and embed it into our character (Galatians 5:22-23.) However, we must be intentional on becoming the person we’re looking for...is looking for. Be genuine with yourself and seek change because you want to be the best person for your family, friends, future spouse, co-workers, and most importantly yourself! Remember, change is an inside job and you will always attract who you are. This journey is one day at a time and the closer we draw to God, the more we resemble him. Let’s appreciate the time we get to work on ourselves in this single season.
Enjoy the gift of life!
Ecclesiastes 11:9 tells us that we should enjoy our life while we’re still young. Tomorrow isn’t promised; therefore, start the blog, attend the concert, travel abroad, start the business, take the class, etc. Just do you! On the other hand, the second half of the verse also tells us that, while we should enjoy our lives, we will have to give an account for everything we do. YOLO is a poor excuse to participate in activities without considering the consequences. Engage in meaningful trips and events that will widen your perspective and allow you to positively pour into others. We should also take advantage of this time to rediscover who we are in Christ. Don’t get wrapped up in searching for bae that you miss what God is trying to reveal to you in this season. God desires to give us more than companionship; He wants us to have a fulfilled life in Him.
Overall, I'm enjoying my relationship with God. I'm constantly challenging myself to grow daily and I'm loving my life while I do it! I know bae will make his way into my life soon...I can feel it! lol I know God will allow it to happen in His perfect timing!
In the comments below, let me know how things are going in your single season. Are you struggling with being alone? How are you enjoying life? Is there any advice you want to give the other readers?
Well, Until Next Time...
Peace & Blessings ...XOXO...